Before marrying, my wife and I discussed expectations. This exercise was very healthy as we all bring a distinctive worldview into any relationship. We talked about how we grew up, expected roles and responsibilities, views on child-rearing, etc. Afterward, we made some tough decisions but found a compromise on everything.
One of those things was the expectation that I wouldn’t sweat the small stuff when it came to things related to our home. For example, I would differ to her what kind of furniture she wanted, decorations she picked out, and those kinds of things, and I would provide feedback.
For the first time, the other morning, as we’re making our bed, I realized something I’d never stop to think about—the number of pillows we have. When I finished counting, there were six. “Why do we need so many pillows? I only use one.” I said. She looked surprised. “Well, two reasons. The first is for supporting different parts of my body and help me sleep better; the other is they make the bed look appealing.”
As I thought about that response, I recalled all of the uncomfortable ways I’ve slept. I’ve slept on airport floors, in cars, in a soaking wet sleeping bag, in a hammock, on chairs, airplane seats, on desks, etc. The crazy part is those are the most memorable because I was on a mission with a purpose each of those times.
After piling up the last pillows on the headboard, I realized how unknowingly, as men, we can become comfortable with complacency. We live without a purpose or a mission and see challenges as inconveniences to be avoided. We mistakenly believe that our ultimate goal in life is to be comfortable and care-free.
Today I challenge you to ask yourself where you could use a little uncomfortableness. Remember, God does his best work when he moves us out of our comfort zone.
Carlos is founder of FX3® and President of Led To Lead, LLC. His greatest joy is that of being a husband to a phenomenal wife and father to three awesome boys. As a professionally trained Leadership & Business Coach, he works with men to help them reach their full potential in their personal and professional lives.
He's served in various roles in his local church, including that of Deacon. He currently serves as Director of Men's Small Groups at Christ Fellowship in Miami,Fl., with an emphasis on discipleship.
Professionally, he founded and is Chief Marketing Officer of Pumped, Inc., a brand development and digital marketing firm, and consults as an independent CMO.