Like most men, I used to consider myself a loner. You know the type—someone who handles things on their own and gets things done. Sure, I had friends, but for the most part, I honestly believed I didn’t “need” other men in my life. This idea seemed “needy.”
Over the years, however, I discovered I was wrong. Being a “lone wolf” is nothing to be admired, nor should it be desired. The term “lone wolf” is sometimes associated with individuals who are either dangerous or highly independent. The reality is somewhere in between but regardless, not good.
Wolf packs work because each member is out for the benefit of others and the group as a whole. Although there may be some infighting and fierce hierarchies, each member acknowledges their individually unique role.
The lone wolf is a wolf that has been either pushed out or left the pack for various reasons. Regardless, they never remain alone for an extended amount of time. Studies show that the number of dispersing wolves makes up less than 15 percent of the world’s wolf population. The reason is that abandoning the pack also means leaving behind the protection other members offer and, as a result, more likely to die.
As beings created in the image of God, he made us for varying kinds of relationships. All of the different types of relationships are reflections of the ones he has with others. Scripture tells us that it’s essential to gather with other godly men for encouragement, strength, and teaching. If you’re not part of one, make it a point to seek a “pack” and protect yourself from the dangers of this world.
What group of men do you turn to during times of trouble or to accomplish great things? Be real; be honest.
Pray and ask God to help you either form or join a good group of godly men. Then determine how you will remain committed to each other. Be specific. Bonus: Share this with a fellow brother and have them hold you accountable.
Carlos F. Peña is first and foremost a faithful follower of Christ and a devoted husband and father. Professionally he is a CEO, CMO, certified executive, leadership and life coach, business consultant, author, and entrepreneur for various companies he owns and operates. Over the years, Carlos has served in multiple leadership roles in business and ministry. Carlos is President and CMO of Pumped®, Inc., a brand development and design firm, CEO of Led to Lead®, a leadership, career, and business coaching company, and the founder and creator of the FX3® program. In ministry, he currently serves as Director of Men's Small Groups at Christ Fellowship in Miami, FL, focusing on discipleship. Carlos considers it his life's mission to help men discover and challenge them to be the men God desires them to be.
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