“I think he needs stitches,” my wife said as she showed me a picture of his cut. Sure enough, a two-inch gash across my sons’ Achilles heel required stitches. My first instinct was to remind my sons how I’ve told them multiple times not to run in the house. I withdrew that thought and replied, “That looks like six stitches. Time to go to urgent care.”
Lately, I’ve been working hard on watching what I say to my wife and kids. In the past, I’ve sometimes been harsh with my words. It was not because I disliked them but more because I was raised to be tough in a harsh world.
Recognizing this characteristic is contrary to scripture, I’ve taken steps to improve. The first thing I did was remind myself kindness is a fruit of the Spirit and readily available. The second is to ask God for me to be kind and also instill a tender heart for others. The third, redefine kindness in biblical terms.
Kindness is not to be confused with niceness. Someone can be nice but not genuine about it. Niceness is more about what someone gets out of the gesture than the person receiving the gesture. Kindness is underserved and unconditional.
When my son and his mother returned from the hospital, his brothers and I took care of his chores. I also witnessed as his brothers served him dinner and helped him with his bedtime routine. It was a powerful and encouraging display of kindness.
Eventually, the wound will heal, and he’ll have a scar to remind him of the accident and the kind gestures he received.
Carlos F. Peña is first and foremost a faithful follower of Christ and a devoted husband and father. Professionally he is a CEO, CMO, certified executive, leadership and life coach, business consultant, author, and entrepreneur for various companies he owns and operates. Over the years, Carlos has served in multiple leadership roles in business and ministry. Carlos is President and CMO of Pumped®, Inc., a brand development and design firm, CEO of Led to Lead®, a leadership, career, and business coaching company, and the founder and creator of the FX3® program. In ministry, he currently serves as Director of Men's Small Groups at Christ Fellowship in Miami, FL, focusing on discipleship. Carlos considers it his life's mission to help men discover and challenge them to be the men God desires them to be.
To learn more about Carlos, visit https://carlosfpena.com