“Honey, did you remember about the kid’s party next week?” my wife asked me. “What party?” I replied. “The one I told you about last night, remember?” “You did?” I replied, bewildered. “Yes, you even said O.K. and that you would take them,” she answered.
Even after more than 60 hours of training and hundreds of hours of listening as a certified Leadership & Life coach, I’m still strengthening my listening skills in my relationships. Listening is a lost art form; many will go through life, never mastering. However, listening is, by far, the most powerful tool for a healthy relationship. More specifically, active listening.
Active listening is the deliberate and conscious effort to hear not only the words that another person is saying but, more importantly, taking in the complete message. The only way to do this is to pay very close and concentrated attention to the other person.
To enhance your listening skills, you need to let the other person know that you are listening to what they are saying. This type of listening requires repetition, feedback, confirmation gestures, eye contact, etc. It’s very involved but also very rewarding.
All of this reminds me of what scripture says in James 1:19. In essence, we’ve got two ears and one mouth, so use them accordingly.
Man Up, Live Outtm:
Read and meditate on James 1:19. What does this verse say to you?
On a scale from 1-10, how would you rate your listening skills? How can you be sure?
Forge in Fellowship:
What will you do today to start improving your listening skills? Share this with a fellow brother and have them hold you accountable.
Carlos F. Peña is first and foremost a faithful follower of Christ and a devoted husband and father. Professionally he is a CEO, CMO, certified executive, leadership and life coach, business consultant, author, and entrepreneur for various companies he owns and operates. Over the years, Carlos has served in multiple leadership roles in business and ministry. Carlos is President and CMO of Pumped®, Inc., a brand development and design firm, CEO of Led to Lead®, a leadership, career, and business coaching company, and the founder and creator of the FX3® program. In ministry, he currently serves as Director of Men's Small Groups at Christ Fellowship in Miami, FL, focusing on discipleship. Carlos considers it his life's mission to help men discover and challenge them to be the men God desires them to be.
To learn more about Carlos, visit https://carlosfpena.com